I’ve been hit left and right these last few days with the reality that I need to engage in some loving confrontation to move forward in a healthy way. I was relatively clear on this notion on Monday, but by Wednesday (yesterday), I’d talked myself down from fully walking out in faith. I’d told myself, “Well, maybe I just need to be strong enough to address this issue should it come up again.” But, the reality is, God doesn’t want us to take a passive stance on confrontation. I thank Pastor Roger Hernandez for his obedience to blog about this. His Spirit-led tweets talked me out of the corner of fearing confrontations that need to be had.
In Matthew 18:15-20, the Word tells us to go to those who’ve harmed us, not to wait, but to be proactive and go to them. The whole purpose is to “gain a brother,” to restore. Choosing not to confront is as selfish as not caring that others be restored. The Word says when someone transgresses, you who are spiritual should restore (Galatians 6:1)! I’d like to selfishly ignore things, but being spiritual requires sacrificing self in order to bring about restoration for others. Below, I’ll share Pastor Hernandez’ tweets that set me free. I pray you, too, find freedom and the courage to lovingly confront as you’re convicted to do.
So true’
Reblogged this on adjustedsails and commented:
Reblogging post on confrontation with a 3-minute video on setting boundaries. Rabbits don’t like when you put up a fence to keep them out of your garden, but producing fruit requires setting boundaries. “I’m a fan of mercy, and I’m a fan of grace, but that does not nullify the boundaries of God.” Love shows restraint; it doesn’t just do whatever it wants whenever it wants. Love both sets and keeps boundaries.